Bhagawadgita 1.25:

bhīṣhma-droṇa-pramukhataḥ sarveṣhāṁ cha mahī-kṣhitām
uvācha pārtha paśhyaitān samavetān kurūn iti

Lord Krishna showed Drona, Bhisma and all such important personalities and said, Arjuna, look at the KURUS who gathered here. It means, he says that all those are the descendants of the same family of the great king Kuru. So Lord Krishna in a way tells Arjuna indirectly that look all these men are of your own family and relatives. Shree Krishna tries to awaken the lurking BUG of MY RELATIONS, MY MEN, MY FAMILY kind. Unless the situations come in life, the bugs within do not rise. Everyone feels they are great people, they are good people and they are great yogis and so on. Some spiritual practitioners think they are great yogis. The rider of the chariot (your system) purposely pokes them to awaken and surface the real life situations. Some HARD MIND CONTROLLERS purposely SUPPRESS the bugs inside. But the repeated similar situations definitely awaken the bugs inside and one day or the other, they will definitely erupt. The situations get tougher and tougher for such ones, making them to bring out the lurking bugs of attachments and traits.

How great ever you are in mind control or how much ever you want to control your life, the bugs lurking inside you are the reason for the situations to arise. Bugs are basically nurtured by normal people while the bugs are purposely brought out and killed in the real time situations by THE CHARIOTEER who is the Guru of Gurus.  Guru’s words would influence the mind with the purpose of just cleaning your system which takes you towards the ultimate objective of your soul. Guru is Hrishikesh, the controller of your mind and senses.

Now, Arjuna is exposed to the real time situation which will pave the way for the revelation of the supreme science of Bhagawadgita.

Bhagawadgita 1.26:

tatrāpaśhyat sthitān pārthaḥ pitṝīn atha pitāmahān
āchāryān mātulān bhrātṝīn putrān pautrān sakhīṁs tathā
śhvaśhurān suhṛidaśh chaiva senayor ubhayor api

Then, Arjuna gets to see his own brothers, gurus, grandfathers, fathers, uncles, sons, nephews, cousins, well-wishers and all of them are of his own men.

Bhagawadgita 1.27:

ān samīkṣhya sa kaunteyaḥ sarvān bandhūn avasthitān
kṛipayā parayāviṣhṭo viṣhīdann idam abravīt

Shree Krishna’s influence would work on THE BUG lurking inside Arjuna and now Arjuna starts bringing out all those bugs. Seeing his own family men, relatives, kith and kin, his mind would be disturbed and he also gets compassionate (masked compassion which is not right compassion) and gets into deep sorrow.

Bhagawadgita 1.28:

arjuna uvācha
dṛiṣhṭvemaṁ sva-janaṁ kṛiṣhṇa yuyutsuṁ samupasthitam
sīdanti mama gātrāṇi mukhaṁ cha pariśhuṣhyati

Arjuna says to Shree Krishna that, “seeing all my own men, my intention of killing them is making my body still and my mouth is dried up.

The word my-own belongs to the body, but not to the soul. My-own comes up from the attachment and man gets entangled with it.

Bhagawadgita 1.29 to 31:

vepathuśh cha śharīre me roma-harṣhaśh cha jāyate
gāṇḍīvaṁ sraṁsate hastāt tvak chaiva paridahyate
na cha śhaknomy avasthātuṁ bhramatīva cha me manaḥ
nimittāni cha paśhyāmi viparītāni keśhava
na cha śhreyo ’nupaśhyāmi hatvā sva-janam āhave

Arjuna says, I am shaken up by seeing my own men. My bow, Gaandeev is dropping down and my skin is burning all over. My mind is disturbed and I am in total confusion. Oh lord Krishna, I am only able to see bad omen and no good in killing my own men.

This is how you are tied to attachments from following your dharma or doing your duty.  You are attached to your own beliefs, opinions, fears and attachment of my-own men, kind elements within you when you are required to follow the dharma. So these elements hold you from doing your duty and dharma. External people are secondary but primarily such false understanding comes from within due to all these bugs in your soul system. Your mind will not have right eye so you will be left in confusion.

Bhagawadgita 1.32 & 33:

na kāṅkṣhe vijayaṁ kṛiṣhṇa na cha rājyaṁ sukhāni cha
kiṁ no rājyena govinda kiṁ bhogair jīvitena vā
yeṣhām arthe kāṅkṣhitaṁ no rājyaṁ bhogāḥ sukhāni cha
ta ime ’vasthitā yuddhe prāṇāṁs tyaktvā dhanāni cha

I don’t want victory Krishna nor do I want the pleasure of having kingdom by killing my own men. What is the use of having victory and kingdom, when I don’t have my own-men in my life?

There are two worlds in which the right perception comes from. One is the physical world and its dharma and the second one is spiritual world and its dharma. All men see through the eye that sees only the physical world, but the actual spiritual eye they lack due to which their mind gets blind. What Arjuna says is from the perception of the physical world appears to be right for him and so does it appear to all men in the world. But the truth comes from the spiritual realm and if you have the eye that sees the truth with spiritual eye, you will have right perception in 360 degrees. Then you will make right decisions and actions which may not be acceptable in the physical world initially but they will be accepted later and you should not go away from doing the right action by having the spiritual eye.

There are some monks who have right spiritual eye but their actions don’t fall in the line of their spiritual eye because, they still carry some fears, worries, attachment to their body (imagining if they do such actions, they might get into troubles in the physical world). Such monks or even spiritualists they remain spiritual only in the mind but not in physical world. When soul, mind and physical world do not fall in same line, they further develop impressions (sanskaras) that will not let their soul evolve further. So they again will have to take birth for their evolution. So following spirituality only for the sake of meditation or to show off some good talks or Vedic scriptures do not yield any results. Such good things will only remain in their mind and mouth but do not come down the physical world.

A soul is in the field of Nature, the world, without action in the real world, the knowledge is not realized, it will only remain in the mind world. The karma related to such inner mind also will not be realized so the karma and traits will still remain in your system if you do not act in the world with the right spiritual eye. That is why the right spiritual people and gurus at times sound quite radical.

So our hero Arjuna is currently having the eye that sees the physical world. The word my-own-men is provoked by Krishna in Arjuna. It is purposely provoked to awaken it from the system of Arjuna so that he can actually show him the truth later.